Friday, November 20, 2015

Open Doors

When we found out about our PA, our case worker asked us if we wanted to request again to be able to visit him. The first time we requested was before we submitted our Letter of Intent to adopt him, and they said we could not visit until we had some sort of official paperwork. Normally, this means all the way to Letter of Approval from the Chinese government, after the dossier is approved. But since we received our PA in the beginning of the process, she told us that she thought it was ok to go ahead and ask again. 

We had several questions about this. Is this really the best thing for him? Could we cause more damage to his attachment and bonding to us when we come visit and then leave him there? We he trust us when we are finally able to take him home for good or will he assume that we will leave again? Should he know who we are and that we are trying to adopt him or do we come in as friends who want to play? Can we emotionally handle going to see him, getting to know him and then leaving him there? What about the other kids at the orphanage? How will it affect them if we are coming to visit Qi Long and they don't have anyone? How will I fight wanting to be able to take every single one of the kids home with me? So many questions, many selfish, many fearsome.

We thought about it for 3 days after we received our PA and we finally came to the realization that whatever the outcome and whatever the setbacks or advantages of meeting him this early in the process, we felt like it would be worth it. We spoke with others that live internationally and heard experiences both good and bad about visiting their children during process. And we believe that Father has put us in this position and given us this amazing opportunity, and we need to trust Him to work out the details. We don't even know if the orphanage will say yes, and that will be our answer. But if He allows us to go visit him, we are willing to take a step of faith and leave the details of whatever comes in the future for him to solve. He will make a way. After all, He makes ALL things work together for the GOOD of those who love Him. We keep our eyes on Him and lean not on our own understanding and He makes our paths straight. 

Please pray with us for open doors!

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Pre Approved!!

We received our Pre-Approval today!!!!!

We came back home from traveling yesterday and I woke up this morning in my usual post-travel state of exhaustion and didn't want to get out of bed. I opened the computer to check my email expecting there to be nothing there, like there never was, so it seemed. My mood immediately changed to elation when I read the subject line, Pre-Approval! I called Justin and the boys in and they came running and together on our bed this morning we read the words that we have been waiting to hear. He is ours and we are going to fervently pursue bringing him HOME!

And now we can finally share his sweet little face with YOU!!







Chen Qi Long
Birthday: 3/15/2010

I know a mama's heart is always biased, but he just has the sweetest face. We feel like he just looks like he belongs to the R family! :)

A few questions that we have asked ourselves and received encouragement about:

1. What is a PA? This is a statement from the government of China that our family is officially promised to this child and no one else can view his file. In a nutshell, we have 6 months to finish our paperwork and submit our Dossier packet to China and then they will go over our information and issue a formal Letter of Acceptance, and after a little bit more paperwork between the US government and China, we will be given a travel date to go pick him up. 

2. What could happen from now until we pick him up that could change our status with him? Can this PA later on get denied? We asked our case worker these questions and of course there are always things that can happen, and she encouraged us that she had never seen that happen. The only time someone would not receive approval after receiving PA is if they were not telling the truth in their original paperwork. People have stopped the process on their own after receiving a PA, but she said it is very rare for someone to have a disruption for some reason outside of their own control. Basically, she told us to relax. Haha.

3. And our really really big question...Since we live nearby, are we allowed to meet him now? We have submitted a request to go visit him. Our agency frequently works with expats and our case worker says sometimes the orphanage says yes, sometimes they say no. All we can do is try and then wait. We are becoming professional wait-ers. 

Monday, November 16, 2015

A Decade Ago

10 years ago, I married a man that I didn't think I could be more in love with than I was that day. Little did I know just how much we would grow up over the years and I know most couples out there would be able to agree with me at how much better marriage gets with time!! It honestly feels weird to say we have been married for 10 years, because it doesn't seem like we should be that old!

My husband has taken me on some of the greatest adventures of my life. He has taken my hand and led me outside of the little box that I might prefer to live inside and shown me that there is so much more to this life than the comfortable! He has shown me how to appreciate. How to appreciate the little things, the beauty that is all around me, and how to find the good in what might seem like a bad situation. We have been to some of the lowest valleys together and have been to some pretty high mountain tops. There are so many more mountains to climb and I cannot imagine living life with anyone else but him. I am so grateful to be able to share my experiences in life with my best friend.

As we continue on this adoption journey, my husband is my source of encouragement, my voice of reason and my truest friend. He has lead me this far with grace and integrity, he is patient with me through all of my doubts and fears and he guides me in the path of righteousness in all that we do. Neither of us are perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but we are better people because we have each other. I realize what a blessing that is in this world and I lay my head down every night thankful for such a man. He is my hero.


Our actual anniversary is not for another couple of weeks, but it's in the middle of Thanksgiving weekend and we decided to celebrate a little early. We were able to spend 2 nights together, all alone, in one of our very favorite cities in the world. It's a beautiful place with rich culture and lots of really good food!! We are so thankful for our friends, the G family, who took such good care of our kiddos while we had this much needed time to celebrate 10 beautiful years together. Looking forward to the next 10!

Sunday, November 8, 2015

The Announcement

I was really hoping to be able to announce our adoption publicly on my birthday, but I honestly didn't have time to sit down at the computer, so we waited until today, in honor of Orphan Sunday to announce. Here is the picture we posted on Facebook.

We are so thankful for the love and support and encouragement and just excitement that we have already received from so many people! It really means so incredibly much to us!


Friday, November 6, 2015

Turning 30

I turned 30 today. For the past 3 years I have been semi-dreading this birthday. And not really for the reason of I'm getting old. Partly that, but in all selfish honesty, I have been sad that I wouldn't be with all of my friends and family for my 30th birthday. It has been a year of big birthdays in my family. Everyone is reaching new milestones together. And they are all going to be having big parties, and I'm not.

I'm not ashamed to admit it. I love parties. Especially when they are for me. My husband and my dear friends here have done a tremendous job at making sure that I feel loved and appreciated on my birthday since we have lived overseas. Actually, the husband has done more for my birthdays here than he ever has, because he knows that it's usually that important to me. And normally, I would try and plan an extravagant birthday trip or party here with our good friends. But this year, even with all of the anticipation of turning 30, I just didn't want it all. I've actually had a very good day with my family and friends here and I have had a lot of time to reflect.

This year my birthday is very different, because this year I finally meet the age requirement to adopt from China. It's a milestone that most people don't celebrate. But as I sit here and think about the face in the picture that we look at so often, there is no where else I'd rather be, than right here writing a blog about my 30th birthday and how it has changed my life. My life will never be the same as it was when I younger than 30. Not just because of the aches and pains that, apparently all of a sudden just appear the moment you turn 30! But because I am now allowed to bring a child into our home and give him a family and unconditional love.

30 feels good!


Tuesday, November 3, 2015

The Name

Ok, first of all, if you know my record with baby names from the past, you know that names are very important to us. We love giving our kids names that reflect our prayers for them, what God has done in our lives through them, and what we want our kids to know about God. This one is no different!

I love Chinese characters. Like a lot. It really seems like they took the meaning of the characters straight from the Bible sometimes. From the way they are drawn, to the different parts that make up the character as a whole, to the meaning there is so much truth wrapped up into Chinese characters. And I love the emphasis that the Chinese put on naming their babies!

 Now, as a disclaimer, I will never be able to know the full truth of his name and why the person who named him chose the name. All I can do is take what is in front of me and make the best guess that I can, and after speaking with my Chinese tutor who knows a little more about the culture than I do, this is what I feel like has been laid on my heart.

Qi Long's full name is Chen Qi Long (陈其龙). The first character, Chen, is a very common surname here in China. In fact, most surnames are pretty common. It is almost as if everyone here is either named Smith, Jones, Williams, Brown or Miller. If you took the Top 25 most seen last names in America, 90% of China would have one of those names. The family name runs deep here and because of that, and also because China is not a melting pot like America, the surnames have been pretty well preserved through the years. But even though it's a common name, I still find great joy in the meaning of the character. Chen means to display, to exhibit, to narrate, to state, to explain, and to tell. I don't know if he had a note with him that said his name, I don't know if he was named after someone in the orphanage, but I do know that in our family, the purpose of our lives is to display the glory of God. How beautiful that out of the many surnames that are common here, this one was chosen for him.

His second character, Qi, was an odd character for me to figure out. It literally means his, her, he, she, or it, referring to no definite person or thing. When I first read this character, my initial reaction was that they thought he was a nobody, because he was abandoned. How awful. And my heart broke. But when we add the last character, it changes the meaning a little.

The third character is Long, a very important character in China. It means dragon. Throughout Chinese history, the dragon has had many roles, such as power, strength and good luck. But the most notable role of the dragon began in the Ming Dynasty as a symbol of the Emporer, a symbol of royalty. Even today, the dragon is considered the most revered zodiac of the 12 Chinese zodiacs. Anything good that happens, marriage, birth of children, a new business, buying a new house, etc...you want it to happen in the year of the dragon. The dragon represents the unrelenting spirit of the Chinese people and it evokes a sense of pride, much like the bald eagle does for us.

When the character Qi was combined with the character Long, my tutor pointed out that the Qi referring to no one definite was not meant for the boy himself, but who he belonged to and where he came from. By combining Qi and Long, his name is actually full of dignity. Because it indicates that yes, there is a mystery about this little boy and where he comes from, but also, that he belongs to someone very special and important.

The person that found him may have not known where he came from or what his name was, but we know that from the very beginning, from before the time that he breathed his first breath, Qi Long belonged to someone very important. He has always belonged to the very One that created him. We may never know why God chose Qi Long to have the story that he has, but we do know that God intends his story to be used for good. And he will now grow up in a loving home with a family that will always tell him how special he is and how he will always has been and always will be HIS dragon.

Sunday, November 1, 2015

Out of Our Hands

Our case worker was pretty quick this time and emailed us our Letter of Intent (LOI) packet of more papers that we needed to get together. Luckily we have done most of the paperwork for our home study already and had most of the papers pretty handy. We typed up a letter and crossed a few t's and dotted some i's and got that packet sent off today. Now it's in someone else's hand and we wait.

Normally, this can take 1-2 weeks to hear back from China on whether or not they give us a Pre-Approval to adopt Qi Long. But we have heard it happening in as little as 4 days, so we are hoping for that!

We are so ready to share his picture with you!